A coworker's managerial style included using feedback I provided on someone to thrash me against them. While this wouldn't be such a bad thing if I said what was relayed. It's frustrating - you get in a spot where you supply feedback for another teammate to better help the manager understand what's going on and then the recipient of the information spins it around.
I left high school almost 10 years ago and I'm not about to get a bad rep because of some information-mutating twit. Blerg.
This is a situation where I step back and tell myself - this is stupid, don't let yourself get worked up over it, it'll pass soon enough. But it's tough when you're in the "now" of it all, ya know?
It's too bad most of us have our best moments of clarity after the fact. Too often I'll want to snap it out in a moment of haste but have been working much harder on just holding it back and letting it sift and simmer before addressing anything major. Despite wanting to dial the person up today to talk it out, I knew it wouldn't accomplish anything. Hell, even going to my own boss to casually mention it wasn't the best idea.
It also reaffirmed my dislike for passive aggressiveness. If something bugs you that I did (or you think I did) then come on out and say it. No need to suppress it, unless it wasn't really worth being upset about in the first place...which usually seems to be the case. In this instance, the gal who felt blindsided kept getting fed BS and finally broke and emailed me about it. Sigh. I know confrontation isn't anyone's favorite thing to do, but if something (whether true or misinterpreted) comes to bother you enough to act on it - then just walk over, call or something. I'd even accept an instant message. Emailing. Pah.
I get too casual and easygoing with what I'll say and talk about. Sometimes, I'll lose sight of what people will take as common conversation and actual truth. Sometimes you get caddy and just vent on whatever comes to mind. Doesn't make it truth, just gets random feelings out of the system. Petitioning for feedback from people to only twist it and use it against you to better your own perceptions from others is irritating, to say the least.
See, look, now I keep writing, which means I need to sleep it off.
I reaffirmed another thing, as it pertains to how I manage people; the best results come from treating everyone as equals, whether they are or if they are not. No matter what your role or rank, if you're all working for the same goal and support each other in the process then you'll better reach it. But, if you use your power for evil or pit others against each other with the attempt at progress then things will eventually hit a standstill and progress will cease.
I've always been one to trust that people, when given a task, should be able to complete it on their own. We're all adults, why not try a little faith until proven otherwise? I know I say that the world is filled with stupid people (if it weren't, who might we make fun of?), but it doesn't mean they're too stupid to do work and figure things out. Mind you, I'm not saying hug it out and be all buddy buddy, I'm merely saying that people work better in an environment where they feel relaxed and trusted to do their job, not micromanaged or undermined.
But on any note. I could bitch about the frustrating personalities of the work place for pages upon pages...or blog after blog. The week is finally drawing to a close. I'm exhausted and should try to get a little bit of sleep.
There's a closet being assembled soon and we'll feel more organized. A show to see. A friend to celebrate with. And hopefully some other pals will come out to partake in the good times.
Good night.
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